Please note that the examples below are meant to be just that: examples. They are not in any sense exhaustive. Furthermore,they are constructed of individual meanings I myself use. If you use different keywords than I do your own combined meanings will look quite different. Also, what I did not take into account in these examples is the order of the paired cards (which card is left and which right). Lastly, if you want to learn more about how to combine two cards' meanings >> here is an explanation of what works for me.

Attack, assault, aggression directed at the querent. Someone is a true cynic or who says hurtful things. Destructive change. Someone who brings destruction/violence with them. Soon there'll be consequences and you can do nothing to prevent it. (Possibly unwarranted but not necessarily negative) feedback. Someone who retaliates or tries to make good. Loud demands for justice. Revolts. An argument about someone's pushiness. A pushy way of arguing one's side. Abusive behaviour in the sense of pressuring someone to do something they don't want to do. Someone blames/accuses/shames someone else.

Minor aggressions; micro aggressions. Sarcastic humour; hurtful jokes. To not take abuse/aggression seriously. To refuse taking responsibility for something one has done, to make light of a misdemeanour. A chance to retaliate. To take every chance to abase others. Opportunity to make amends. Opportunity to try and resolve a conflict.

To get away from abuse. To change one's own abusive behaviour. To bring justice to the world. To punish/torture someone by being unreachable. The threat of leaving someone behind. To go looking for trouble. Guilt about leaving. Someone's guilty of leaving someone else behind who they should have committed to. Conflict about changes we are making or planning to make. Exploration of aggressive tendencies. To receive scolding/punishment for departing from something, for changing something, for doing uncommon things. Absence of conflict. To experiment with BDSM.

Aggression or even violence or abuse somewhere in the family. Rules/traditions concerning atonement or punishment; traditional punishment; restrictive traditional world views that make us feel guilty or ashamed for completely unnecessary reasons. Family guilt. To be ashamed of one's family or home. A conflict in the family. Conflicting rules. To be used to aggression/insults. To feel at home in situations of conflict or debate. Home or family is threatened; our habits are ridiculed/chided. Destructive conservatism; destructive traditions.

A conflict which grows slowly but steadily. Conflicts about our body; insults to our body. To be ashamed of specific physical characteristics or of our bodily needs/functions in general. To hate one's own body. Physical violence; threats to our body. Infliction of physical pain. Something which is destructive to our body, to our health. Natural disasters. To stay calm and unflappable in the face of conflict or aggression. Healthy discussions. Conflicts which help us grow.

Clouded memories of assault or abuse. Hidden abuse; violence parading as something else. pretence which does actual damage. Paralysing feelings of guilt or shame. Inability to identify aggressive or abusive behaviour. Feelings of shame so intense that they cloud everything. Aggression clouds everything. To hide one's guilt. To be so insecure that we beat ourselves up constantly. Misunderstanding causes a conflict. Someone is scolded or mocked for their ignorance. An unclear argument. To become desensitised to insults/aggression.

Sneaky or very diplomatic and clever or even wise ways to criticise. The craving to inflict pain on others; sadism - or to crave pain; masochism. To have a habit of seeking out abusive relationships or painful situations. To deal with aggression in a wise way. To seek justice. Judge; mediator; anti-violence counsellor. To feel ashamed for one's desires; to shame others for their desires. Accusations of recklessness or selfishness. Abuse in the form of coercion or manipulation. An extremely skilled debater.

To let go of an argument. End of a conflict. To grief over having been wounded. To bury feelings of aggression or a conflict. To suppress painful memories or memories of violence. To suppress one's own violent tendencies. Blame for death; blame for the end of something. To be responsible for (and/or feel guilty for causing) an ending.

To behave in such a friendly and non-confrontational way that others think they can be mean to us. To exploit someone's goodnaturedness. To react with kindness to aggression. To alleviate guilt or shame. Attempts at appeasement. Gestures of reconciliation. To gloss over / sugarcoat / whitewash something which is quite horrible in reality.

Imminent danger, threats. Sudden aggression, painful (possibly unexpected) conflicts; to (finally!) own up to something and take responsibility and pay due retribution. To end an abusive relationship or situation. To handle arguments/conflicts by cutting the other person (or their word) off. To hurt someone on purpose. To self-harm in an attempt to get rid of shame or guilt.

A very big argument. A destructive conflict; a conflict which breaks things beyond repair. An argument about who is to blame. To scold someone for their aggressiveness. Discussion about a conflict. Painful/shameful punishment. Consequences for aggression. Revenge for a hurt.

To be very nervous about feedback/criticism; to be on the alert for threats. Mikroaggressions that in sum become very harmful. To keep brooding about actual or perceived insults, to be unable to let go of them. To expect apologies too soon. Constant nagging; bickering. Anxiety disorder. To be conflicted. Destructive stress. Nervousness caused by the experience of violence. Worries about a conflict. An argument about a messy situation. A messy argument. Guilty conscience never shuts up. Embarrassment. Hurtful gossip.

To reprimand a child or inexperienced person (possibly too harshly). To violate the innocent, to pollute or sully something which was clean, to be too rough with something that could easily break. To talk oneself into looking down or despising that which is pure and innocent. To attack the guileless; to blame/punish the innocent. Innocent vs. guilty. To hurt or punish an innocent person. Child abuse. To belittle abusive behaviour. Innocence vs. cynicism. Guilty child; child who is ashamed. Justice for one's inner child. Conflict about a child.

To act against one's own self-interest; to hurt one's own cause. Beware of aggression/abuse! To defend oneself against aggression; self-defence tactics. Self-interest conflicts with someone else's. Self-incrimination; to blame/punish oneself. Accusations of selfishness. An identity which is entangled with feelings of guilt, or with abuse. Necessary aggression; to inflict injuries / be violent if necessary.

Something you regret has a major influence on your life. To be dominated by a sense of guilt. Strong embarrassment. Physically or verbally aggressive parent or teacher. Abuse of power. Protection against violence/aggression. To protect others from aggression. To speak up. Conflicted leader/parent/boss. To be ashamed on behalf of a parent, or to feel conflicted about parenthood. To fiercely (maybe even physically violently) protect. Bouncer.

To find deep meaning in difficult or painful things that happen. To question one's faith. To be critical of esoteric claims; or, scolding for for wishful thinking or daydreaming. Argument about spiritual beliefs; conflicting wishes. Spiritual ideas about punishment or atonement; e.g. karma. Escapism when confronted with abuse. To trust that a conflict can be solved. Shame because one doesn't meet an ideal. Imagined conflict; imagined guilt.

Long process in which justice is supposed to be restored (e.g. a court trial) The feeling of guilt for transforming (and thus changing the game). Shame for a transformation. Pain threshold. To go through a phase of self-reproach or self-hatred. Going through a situation or relationship which is full of conflict will change us in some way whether you want it to or not. Long journey towards healing. Transformation of something bad. The inner change the experience of violence causes. Shame for one's inner nature, or for one's deepest longings. Transformation of shame/guilt into something else. To move on after a bad experience. This crosses the limit of abuse we're willing to take! Conflict is inevitable. Recurring conflict. Cycle of abuse.

To blame a friend / be accused by a friend. Argument with a friend. A cynic or abusive or abrasive friend. Trust is damaged by abrasive or abusive words or behaviour. To not stand up to abuse/aggression. To let ourselves be treated like shit (or to treat someone who depends on us like shit...) Someone tractable is bullied. To stand by an abuser out of a sense of loyalty. A helpful discussion. Support during a conflict. Justice for a friend. To meekly confess one's guilt. To knuckle down.

The refusal to confront oneself with other people's criticisms; to avoid conflict. To distance oneself from what one feels is damaging/aggressive etc. To punish someone with emotional cold; to give someone the silent treatment. Abuse of authority. The attempt to control others with aggression. Control of one's own aggression. To shut others out because of shame. Guilt for being in a top position. Challenge of authority. A conflict with someone on the top.

Public dispute; shitstorm; media frenzy, violation of privacy, online harassment. Public humiliation. Public apology is needed. To confess one's guilt to the world. What we are most ashamed of is made public. Violent society; aggression in groups. Societal conflicts. Destructive parts of culture. Public outcry (for justice).

Threat of a challenge. Abuse/aggression/shame/conflict that we keep quiet about. (Inner) conflict or guilt so strong it makes us freeze up, unable to act. To punish with silence - the silent treatment. To not react to bullying/aggression. To react with stoic calm to attacks; to be unmoved by attacks. To patiently wait out conflicts. Or: someone's unmoved reaction to our criticism drives us mad. To be driven to extremes (attacks, aggression) by a difficult situation we think can't be solved with other means.

A clash of wills; conflict of interests. Contradictory options, conflicting alternatives. All the different ways we could react to threats/aggression. Destructive hesitation; destructive inability to decide. To beat oneself up about a choice. Regret about a decision we made. Discussion of alternatives; argument about what the options are; argument about a choice already made. To be criticised for indecision. We can just walk away (e.g. from abuse). Alternatives to violence.

Bad arguments; dishonest arguments, lies. To run out of arguments. To be lost for words. Exhausting conflict. Rumour, slander; to be stabbed in the back. Poisonous words. Abuse which starts slowly and is hardly noticeable at first. Theft, robbery. Crippling shame/guilt. To atone for evils done. To be ashamed of poverty. To be guilty of doing harm / pollution / destruction. To criticise someone's dishonesty; to demand compensation for what someone took without asking.

To hurt someone's feelings. Conflicts of the heart. Loving, gentle feedback - to have compassion while we criticise someone. To scold very gently. Or: constant switch between criticising and accepting. To fight about where a loving relationship is going or should be going. Lover's quarrel. Reconciliation after an argument. To reconcile oneself with an inner conflict, or with bad experiences in the past. To react to expressions of love with cynicism. To forgive harsh words / insults. (Very likely inappropriate) compassion for an aggressor; love of someone although they are abusive. To be too soft when justice is demanding some kind of retribution. Broken heart. Looking at oneself with a loving gaze makes it possible to forgive oneself, to let go of guilt and shame.

United in hatred. Inability to let go because there is still amends to be made from one or both sides. Commitment to tackling a conflict. Broken promise. vicious cycle. To follow an argument to the end. Attachment to someone which is so strong that it causes arguments, or clinging so tightly that it becomes abusive.

To (mis)use (not necessarily but possibly secret or confidential) knowledge as a weapon to win a discussion or to harm someone. Knowledge about something or someone abusive. Abuse which only few people know about. To learn about something or someone abusive. To keep knowledge of a conflict to oneself. To judge others (harshly) by their level of education. To be ashamed for one's own low education.

Communication about a conflict. Debates, discussions, verbal conflicts. Conflicting information. To let someone know when they have displeased you or when you feel that you're being mistreated. Aggressive communication; to say sarcastic or cynic things to others. Insults. Verbal or non-verbal expressions of shame/guilt. To say sorry; to ask how one can make amends.

Whip-Man (a)
Man who is: a cynic, snarky, judgemental - or ashamed; guilty. Prosecutor, lawyer, judge, police officer. To criticise, insult, shame, or abuse, a man. Man who beats himself up about something. Aggressive man, abuser. Misandry. To feel ashamed for being a man. Argument with a man. Man is guilty; man makes amends.

Whip-Woman (a)
Woman who is: a cynic, snarky, judgemental - or ashamed; guilty. Prosecutor, lawyer, judge, police officer. To criticise, insult, shame, or abuse, a woman. Woman who beats herself up about something. Aggressive woman, abuser. Misogyny. To feel ashamed for being a woman. Argument with a woman. Woman is guilty; woman makes amends.

Whip-Man (b)
Man who is: a cynic, snarky, judgemental - or ashamed; guilty. Prosecutor, lawyer, judge, police officer. To criticise, insult, shame, or abuse, a man. Man who beats himself up about something. Aggressive man, abuser. Misandry. To feel ashamed for being a man. Argument with a man. Man is guilty; man makes amends.

Whip-Woman (b)
Woman who is: a cynic, snarky, judgemental - or ashamed; guilty. Prosecutor, lawyer, judge, police officer. To criticise, insult, shame, or abuse, a woman. Woman who beats herself up about something. Aggressive woman, abuser. Misogyny. To feel ashamed for being a woman. Argument with a woman. Woman is guilty; woman makes amends.

High quality arguments; long arguments. To enjoy discussions. Discussion or conflict about sensual or sexual issues. A discussion or argument about the arts, about taste/smell etc., or sex. To shame someone for their sexual behaviour or wishes; or to be ashamed of one's own sensual/sexual side. Consensual play with punishment (e.g. BDSM), but also: To find pleasure in abusing someone. Sexual abuse.

Virtues which are relevant in conflict situation or when there's an argument - e.g. honesty, and willingness to listen, non-violence. Wise handling of conflicts. To stand up against abusive behaviour. Conflict about moral issues. Morally justifiable punishment. Atonement in order to set things right. Self-punishment in order to get rid of guilt. Sense of shame. Agonizing moralising. To be tormented by (one's own?) unrealistically high moral expectations. Someone innocent is being punished. Innocent argument, honest argument. Righteous wrath.

To (justifiably) criticise someone or something for their shallowness. Negativity (or overanalysing) ruins perfectly good things. To spoil joy/fun with sarcasm. A show-fight. To feel guilty about being happy. To go into an argument confidently, or with a good mood. To enjoy arguing; to start arguments for fun. A heated argument. A conflict only on the surface.

Confrontation with our fears/needs/emotions in general. Deep shame; profound remorse. To make someone deeply unhappy by shaming them or criticising them. Unconscious shame(ing). Conflicting needs or fears. Emotional violence. PTSD. Mental illnesses that have their root in abusive situations. Emotional injury; emotionally broken. To shame someone for their feelings. Discussion of fears/needs. Conflict about someone's (emotional) needs. Nightmares. A respite from conflict. Time out to lick our wounds.

To welcome discussion or feedback. To unwittingly leave ourselves open to abuse or to be treated undeservedly harshly. Violation of boundaries. To feel guilty for saying yes. To say yes out of guilt. To be blamed for opening up. To be accused of saying yes. Liberation from an abusive situation. A discussion which leads to the solution. To discuss a solution. The belief that violence solves problems. To think that the solution is found but to discover only contradictions. Instant justice or punishment.

To value dispute/argument. Lots of conflicts. Low quality arguments. A fight about financial (or generally material) issues, or about who owes whom (not necessarily monetary debts!). Financial retribution/compensation, or: there's a need for balancing/our your accounts with someone in non-financial matters. To pay a penalty - monetary or otherwise. To fine someone. To feel guilty for being rich; to be guilty of closefistedness, or greed.

A conflict or argument or something abusive is at the centre of one's concern. To hold on to an argument, to conflict. Long-lasting belligerent mood. Abusive behaviour in the form of: stalking, possessiveness, physically restraining someone. Focus on shame/guilt/making amends. To be conflicted about a stay/the status quo.

Conflict of dogma, conflict of believes. Sense of guilt; bad conscience. To apologise and atone. Flagellation (literal, or metaphorically speaking). To go to confession. Abusive behaviour in the sense of pressuring someone to do something or burdening someone with something they do not want to be responsible for. The burden on the soul of being verbally attacked. To bear abuse. Our convictions about punishment, shame, or guilt.

Whip - Wild Card
A conflict in the making - although it is not conspicuous yet, or what it is about is still indeterminate. Who is to blame??? A yet hidden victim or perpetrator. Question mark regarding compensation, or punishment. To feel punished without knowing exactly how or why. An underlying conflict which is very important but indefinite yet. Open questions cause conflict; or: someone's indeterminableness, indefiniteness, causes conflict. A (possibly genderqueer) person with the attributes of the Whip (see the Whip's keywords).

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